Family Constellations Reading Guide - Love’s Hidden Symmetry
Bert Hellinger with Gunthard Weber and Hunter Beaumont, Love’s Hidden Symmetry: What Makes Love Work in Relationships, (1998)
Read the book and answer these questions. Please sent them to me. I will review them, but if you want to discuss the book you can schedule a mentoring session.
Introduction by Hunter Beaumont
Chapter One
Chapter Two
Chapter Three
Chapter Four
Chapter Five
Chapter Six
Chapter Seven
Chapter Eight
Additional Questions
Read the book and answer these questions. Please sent them to me. I will review them, but if you want to discuss the book you can schedule a mentoring session.
Introduction by Hunter Beaumont
- What does Hunter Beaumont mean when he says regarding BH work: “What he found was this: If you want love to flourish, you need to do what is demands and to refrain from doing what harms it."
Chapter One
- What is the personal conscience and its relationship with guilt and innocence? How is it limiting?
- How do we find balance in giving and taking?
- Why does love require the courage to become guilty?
Chapter Two
- What is the role of male energy for the family dynamic?
- Why is the fundamental relationship in a family that of the parents?
Chapter Three
- What are the first three orders of love? How do they succeed?
- What are some systemic considerations in dealing with incest? How do we help a child to find a way back to self-worth and dignity and her love acknowledged and affirmed?
Chapter Four
- What are the five additional dynamics that constrain the success of Love in Family Systems?
- How does Hellinger suggest we can overcome “blind systemic justice”?
- What is “Identification” and how does it repeat itself? What is a double shift?
- What is Love’s Hidden Symmetry?
Chapter Five
- What happens when we leave the confines of a single group and embrace the wholeness of the world?
Chapter Six
- What is the difference between observing and seeing?
- How does Hellinger deal with good and evil at a systemic level? What is the role of consequences and responsibility?
- What does Hellinger mean when he says “the correct description of a problem contains the resolution to the problem?
- What are the four kinds of feelings described by Hellinger?
- What is systemic feeling?
Chapter Seven
- What is the role and benefit of bowing in a Family Constellation according to Hellinger?
Chapter Eight
- What would you say is the general reason for Hellinger’s interruptions/interventions in the rounds?
Additional Questions
- What were the three most impactful quotes from the book?
- What are the five most important things you have learned about facilitating Family Constellations from this book?
- What did you learn from this book that will impact your personal life?