Releasing Challenging Entanglements

Sometimes, it’s challenging to fully release our entanglements with family members, ancestors, and past events. We may feel a deep resistance and return to the familiarity of the entanglement.
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The loyalty and blind love deeply ingrained in our sense of self and experiences can make a resolution feel strange, uncomfortable, lonely, and less intense. Letting go of these entanglements can feel unsafe and unsettling. I’ve also observed that family systems can be resistant to members releasing entanglements by increasing feelings of guilt and fear.

When we examine family systems, we realize that they are held together by biological bonds between members. Children are connected to their parents and those who came before them, and these individuals are connected to their children and descendants. The family feels complete and whole when these bonds are maintained, and life flows through these bonds, carrying strength and love.

However, when these bonds are interrupted or blocked by overwhelming pain, suffering, or trauma, they can be replaced by entanglements that hold the family together by merging, identifying, and sacrificing to avoid the pain and terror that arises without these family bonds. The past can become more significant than the present, making it increasingly difficult for the family system to support life moving forward.

Challenging entanglements often require that the network of bonds that hold the family system together be fully repaired. Additionally, the events that caused the overwhelming pain, suffering, or trauma must be acknowledged and released. The strength and love that flow through the restoration of these healthy bonds can be precisely what we need to break free from challenging entanglements and live in freedom.

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